Warning: preg_replace(): The /e modifier is deprecated, use preg_replace_callback instead in ..../includes/class_bbcode.php on line 2968
Hello from Surrey, England - total newbie!
Recent Chat Activity (Main Lobby)
Join Chat

Loading Chat Log...

Prefer not to see ads? Become a Community Supporter.
Results 1 to 5 of 5

Thread: Hello from Surrey, England - total newbie!

  1. #1
    Join Date
    Apr 2015
    Location
    Guildford
    Posts
    3
    Downloads
    0
    Uploads
    0

    Hello from Surrey, England - total newbie!

    Prefer not to see ads?
    Become a Community Supporter.
    Hi everyone,

    I'm Matt. Total RPG newbie, looking to somehow find my way into this interesting mess! I first discovered tabletop RPGs sometime in the '90s when I was a teenager with Star Wars, but had no friends who would be interested in playing. I read about them but never got to play and eventually sort of forgot.

    But I got given the new Star Wars: EotE Beginner's Box for my birthday a few weeks ago and its rekindled a lot of old interests. Of course, I still have nobody to play with. I've been searching around online and am having a go at online play through forums but would still be interested in doing this properly with a group of people eventually.

    A bit of an issue is that I'm a really shy and socially anxious person. Any local groups I've found have met in pubs, which doesn't really suit me. They also seem to be knee-deep in ongoing campaigns in games I've never even heard of. I pretty much know that Star Wars and D&D exist, other than that there are lots of games that I've heard the names of (Pathfinder, Dungeon World, Fiasco, Fate) but know nothing about them. I've begun researching but it's overwhelming!

    In daily life I'm a self-employed musician and guitar teacher, gigging regularly. This means I work odd hours (I'm often busiest in the evenings) and that's another hurdle to overcome! I'm a big sci-fi/fantasy nut.

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Mar 2010
    Location
    Near Claremore
    Age
    44
    Posts
    540
    Blog Entries
    28
    Downloads
    27
    Uploads
    15
    Welcome Matt!

    Interesting about your daily life of being a musician and teacher but having social anxiety. As someone with generalized anxiety myself, it took my quite a while to understand how people can sometimes be social in some settings but still generally asocial. I found, for me, tabletop RPGs, both face to face and online, helped me tremendously over the years, to at least emulate being a more social person, even if I wasn't. Roleplaying and acting by extension, helped me to "pretend" to be social around others, even strangers, so I will always consider it a fantastic outlet and therapeutic and educational tool.

    I'm curious about how you wound up being given an RPG if nobody you knew was into them? That's too bad about being interested as a kid in gaming but no takers. I started with redbox D&D off the shelf when I was 17 or so in '88, but had a friend that saw it disused in my closet one day and said "Oh wow, how does it work? Want to try it out?" I had bought it, read through it and couldn't understand it, so I just stuck it away. At least one other person with interest really helped me get the incentive to dig into gaming and I'm forever grateful for that.

    I have never been a person to go to bars/pubs, and only have been to one gaming convention, here in Oklahoma in '94, but luckily had older friends since I was around 19, help expose me to many games, including original Star Trek by FASA, Runequest, Warhammer Fantasy Roleplay, Call of Cthulhu and others. It's too bad you missed out on that but it's never too late to try. I know some people also try colleges and libraries for gaming groups, though I'm not sure with how much success.

    Have you done any online gaming? Play by posts (in forums) are slow for most people but can be an alternative. PPG here has a few games ongoing, I know there's Serenity played on Sundays in the chat here realtime, and at one time there was a Pathfinder game going or at least starting. Some people play online using other sites or utilities like Roll20 or Maptool, and of course there is a player finder/game ad forum here. Chat isn't as bustling as it used to be but you might drop into it here sometime and ask around, and get to know people. You're always free to msg me also or post here if you want to continue the discussion of RPGs and such. Welcome (hopefully) back to the hobby! =)
    Abstruse Decapod

    "Why aren't i just be able to write adventures that don't require crap like an Amish rpg?" -myself

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Aug 2011
    Location
    hendersonville
    Age
    33
    Posts
    106
    Downloads
    11
    Uploads
    1
    Welcome first and foremost! I know how overwhelming the tabletop game world can be first hand. I live in a small town with a small game community. For the longest time D&D was the only game I knew existed. But eventually I spread out and learned more. I have a pathfinder game rapping up in person and I'm about to start the group into a fantasy-space adventure in a lost game known as Alternity. Star wars was one of my earliest branch games since the release at the time was basically the same game as D&D (3.0). But alas none of my friends were as interested as I was and the whole mess got dropped.

    The online gaming option is a real good choice. Though groups that are stable can be hard to create. I have run a few one offs in chat and Roll20 even had a few groups last several games. Though none turned into long lasting games like in person games tend to. My 5 year old son is learning to play with my current group which is a blast, he basically just smashes stuff all the time but hey he is 5. The group has been real accommodating to having a child present. We meet at a local game shop. I have in my life lived in several places and I have found game shops to be my best bet for getting games going. Usually, like in the current game, I start with very few players and the shop provides the rest. I started with only 2 players and my son and now the game has 8 steady players and 3-4 who show up when they can, sometimes that is hard for the story to work with but we manage.

    I would suggest trying to find a local game or comic shop that has tables and maybe just hang out or join an ongoing game. The folks there are mostly all antisocial anyway so those of us with social anxiety tend to fit in better there. Long standing groups often have rules concerning new players so be polite and ask nicely. It should be noted that even if a game is not going on when you walk in, ask the employee. They know about most of the standing games and when groups that drop in tend to be there. Some shops even have post boards that you can advertise games or advertise seeking a game on. Just an idea for you to stew over. Good luck in your gaming search. Wish you well.

  4. #4
    Join Date
    Apr 2015
    Location
    Guildford
    Posts
    3
    Downloads
    0
    Uploads
    0
    Quote Originally Posted by jpatterson View Post
    Welcome Matt!

    Interesting about your daily life of being a musician and teacher but having social anxiety.

    I'm curious about how you wound up being given an RPG if nobody you knew was into them?

    Have you done any online gaming?
    Yes, it's always seemed a bit strange, but I can get up on stage and play without much problem. A part of that is because I don't feed off the audience and instead create a sort of bubble around myself. Doing one-on-one guitar lessons is a bit trickier, I get pretty stressed and anxious before each one even after 6 years of doing it, but it's the age-old advice of 'if you act confident, you'll be confident'. It's not exactly true, but just pretending is enough to get me through lessons at least! And the students keep coming back, so I must be doing something right.

    I got given the Star Wars RPG because I'd randomly added it to my Amazon wish list! I've pretty much always been alone with my interests even amongst my friends, whether it comes to music, films, TV, books (ironically, 10 years ago I was telling everyone I knew about this amazing book called A Game of Thrones. Were they remotely interested? Like bugger were they. Cut to today, and we're having a Game of Thrones premiere party tonight). The internet was an amazing gateway because suddenly I could talk to people about the things I enjoyed! But yeah, I've always felt a bit like I missed the boat when it comes to finding the right people at the right time. I didn't got to college/uni until my mid-20s because I absolutely was not ready for it in my late teens.

    I've started my first play-by-post experience now over at the forums on RPG Geek. I think it's a format that I'm going to to enjoy! Although the pace is glacial, to put it mildly
    Playing over Skype or using Roll20 is a bit trickier, as it's hard for me to sit down at the computer for a set amount of hours, and if I'm at home I generally like to be with my housemates as it's one of the few forms of socialising I really get to do.
    Thanks for the welcome!

  5. #5
    Join Date
    Apr 2015
    Location
    Guildford
    Posts
    3
    Downloads
    0
    Uploads
    0
    Quote Originally Posted by falinxelote View Post
    I would suggest trying to find a local game or comic shop
    I've had a look, and the closest ones to me are Games Workshops. These places used to deal in all sorts of hobby games, but now they are pretty much exclusively Warhammer 40,000 and I've even heard that they discourage other games (not sure whether that was an exaggeration). I'm going to go and have a look when I get the chance though. Thanks for the welcome!

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •