I totally agree with you about the magic thing. I can understand how it gives christians who haven't really looked into it pause, though. And some have big issues even with the magic in Tolkien or Lewis' s writing.
I'm not really a fan of DnD, preferring LOTR or Star Wars, but I have played it...
In both cases, as a player or GM, I won't be a good fit with a group of gamers that curse like sailors and/or are generally amoral in other ways. As a player, I look for a game with good story. I am not item/loot/exp. driven. At the same time, I look forward to action in a game, as long as its not too bogged down and is connected well with the rest of the story. I want to be in a party of "heroes," not a mix of neutral/neutral-evil "adventurers." Unless you're the GM, I think roleplaying evil is creepy and distasteful. Sorry if I offend with that statement! Also, I like games where your character is actually in danger. Those are the kind of games I like to run, as well.
As a GM, I would look for players who also value story highly, want to take the high-road with their characters, and really strive (in a fun, non-laborious way!) to recreate the feel of the particular world (or galaxy) we're playing in - Middle Earth or the Star Wars galaxy. I also love introducing new people to RPGs and am very patient with new players and young (but reasonably mature) players - not so much with rules lawyers, min-maxers, and the players looking for "Santa Claus" GMs.
I'm a devoted family-man and christian who loves to roleplay - not too many of us around! I hope that doesn't scare anyone away. I'm not holier-than-thou. I moved to Tennessee about 3 years ago, and haven't played since before the move. I've done a lot of GMing (MERP, LOTR, Wheel of Time D20, and some Star Wars). I've also done a lot of playing (add Cyberpunk to the others). I'm not really interested in DND and not at all in White Wolf games.