I have attended several groups in my area, but have not continued with any of them. It seems that most are just interested in getting to the next battle. Any "role-playing" bits of the story are reduced to "I use Diplomacy to get the information" [roll dice], or "Yay, we're in town! Let's find a whorehouse! Haw haw haw!" That's a fine way to play - and can be fun on occasion - but it's not how I want to play an entire extended campaign.
I like role-playing games to be a group storytelling experience, not just a miniatures wargame with a loose story tying it together. Rich characters with deep backgounds exploring a dynamic world - that sort of stuff.
I remember playing back in high school and college with a DM who would have you play out the scene to get the information, sometimes having you roll with a bonus - or penalty - based on how well you had done. Often, experience points were granted for excellent roleplaying, or creative solutions to a problem (especially if the DM hadn't anticipated the solution and was amused by it).
I work in the video game industry. You'd think I'd have no trouble finding a decent D&D group to play with, but you'd be wrong.
I'm just looking for a 4E Forgotten Realms D&D group in my area that plays by the standard rules and uses some actual role-playing in the game.