Like to collaborate with DMs to flesh out the world, add some social realism. Roleplaying with a decent amount of seriousness (method acting?), but not into LARPing or getting lost in the role. A decent amount of fighting and experience reward are nice, but prefer a degree of realism -- killing things should not be the first and only option. It's just as interesting to befriend the orc barbarian as to slaughter him!
Like DM's who work closely with players to develop characters, providing their own guidelines, but who aren't too rigid ("the DM is always right") during play.
I've been gaming for like 30 years, since I was a little kid. D&D mainly, with some World of Darkness and Call of Cthulhu mixed in. I like a number of things about D&D 4th Edition, but don't find it particularly inspiring and don't always want to play the level of epic fantasy heroism that it's designed to give ya.
I like to play one long session a week, preferably Sundays, and socialize with my group outside of game now and then. Really love board games like Arkham Asylum too.
I'm gay and prefer groups that can deal with diversity in a mature fashion. I prefer fantasy game worlds where gender and sexuality are treated frankly and realistically, as long as the players themselves aren't stuck in the dark ages...