"Gamer Chicks" and Romance in RPG's.
by, 02-09-2010 at 11:10 PM (5565 Views)
Well, this is a random rant I don't know many of you will want to read but I just have to get it off of my chest.
This has to do with the general subject of romance in role playing. Most of the role playing I've done has had a bit of romance in it and some innocent flirting which is fine. Though it never was the primary focus, it gave an interesting twist to the plot and me being a romantic, I had a blast with it.
There have been games where there has been a whorish type character who flirts with ALL of the guys in the roleplay and seems to have absolutely every intention to steal every male character for herself and nobody can have any fun or get in any sort of attempt at even talking to the opposite gender because then there would obviously be the proverbial "Cat fight" between the people playing the characters. "He's mine...no he's mine...and he's mine...and he's mine too...wait...they're ALL mine and you can't have them...*hairpulltugscratchhiss*..." etc...
The way I play my characters and the way I see other females play their characters seem like night and day. I'm more the type to be shy and polite and I tend to have characters that gravitate towards the outcasts in the group. There haven't been many characters that I've played that have been overtly flirty.
It irks me to no end where female characters flit from man to man flirting and showing skin and acting like they'd sleep with any man right then and there.
I really wish that there was a happy medium in the role play games I'm in that allowed for some innocent flirting and perhaps have a chance to find something in common with a male character and see where things go from there. Innocent flirting is nice but when someone is blatantly showing skin and giving everyone the impression that they're "easy" then that's the type of character I tend to think has no real sense of the plot or quest at hand and has only one thing on the brain, and it isn't spell preparation or combat strategy.
Everything is good in moderation, and there happens to be a good deal of things that I'd tolerate in a roleplay but if a character is being overly flirtatious and not really giving any other thoughts to the task at hand...it makes me question their intent to join the rp in the first place.
I guess I'm personally just looking for a game where I can have fun, not where I need to compete for a male character's attention. If I get it, I get it...I don't need to have my characters "Assets" showing in plain view to give the impression she's interested in them.
Characters who get caught up in too much battle is one thing but way too much flirting is detrimental to the plot and leaves the other people feeling small and insignificant.
That's all for now...maybe I'll be able to find my happy medium soon. I'm not holding out much hope but perhaps there is something out there for me that holds what I'm looking for.