Family Gaming

[Moritz]

Back in the day it used to be us guys and maybe a girlfriend or two that would game.

In this time, now that we're old, most of us are married and some of us have kids. So when the games happen, the whole family comes so the kids can play in another room while we (husbands/wives/significant others)try to relive our role-playing glory days in the other room.

I was wondering, how many of us on this thing actually make it a family event?

[PhishStyx]

My daughter will turn 8 in Nov., which is when I always said I'd start teaching her to play. My wife is utterly disinterested in RPG's.

[Ed Zachary]

Fortunately my wife participates, but is not overly enthusiastic. The core of our group is three couples.

When we meet, it's not just for D&D.

[Wikrin]

Well, my brother is more interested in cars and stuff, and I don't have any other family members with whom RP. :(

[starfalconkd]

My brother used to play. I'm still single. So no family gaming for me.

[Rain_Spider_08]

Nobody in my family games, and frankly I prefer it that way. That way there's none of that "omfg... How come you didn't save my character?! I thought you loved me?" crude going on... ::rolls eyes::

[Inquisitor Tremayne]

My girlfriend kept bringing up RPGs for awhile when I told her that I play them, asking questions and what-not. I think she secretly wanted me to teach her how to play. I am very stand-offish when it comes to trying to get the girl I am seeing into playing because I feel like I am forcing it on them and then they are just too self-conscious about it and get all embarrassed and don't want to play and kind of causes a rift.

But I think I am going to offer to run a D&D (or Star Wars) game for her and her 11 year old daughter.

Wish me luck!

[Rain_Spider_08]

My girlfriend kept bringing up RPGs for awhile when I told her that I play them, asking questions and what-not. I think she secretly wanted me to teach her how to play. I am very stand-offish when it comes to trying to get the girl I am seeing into playing because I feel like I am forcing it on them and then they are just too self-conscious about it and get all embarrassed and don't want to play and kind of causes a rift.

But I think I am going to offer to run a D&D (or Star Wars) game for her and her 11 year old daughter.

Wish me luck!

Good luck, and you sound like a very good boyfriend. I'll never forget how stupid I felt when I first started playing with my boyfriend at the time :cringe: I learned that day never to play with a bf and his friend... it never works out well in the end, sometimes it stinks being the only girl gamer in a group :mad:

[Inquisitor Tremayne]

She replied, thanks but no thanks but she is interested in it.

Whatever the heck THAT means!

Needless to say I will never bring it up again.

[Kelbin]

My daughter will turn 8 in Nov., which is when I always said I'd start teaching her to play. My wife is utterly disinterested in RPG's.


I am right there with you. I want to teach my twins when they get older. Too bad my wife has no interest in RPGs.

My girlfriend kept bringing up RPGs for awhile when I told her that I play them, asking questions and what-not. I think she secretly wanted me to teach her how to play. I am very stand-offish when it comes to trying to get the girl I am seeing into playing because I feel like I am forcing it on them and then they are just too self-conscious about it and get all embarrassed and don't want to play and kind of causes a rift.

But I think I am going to offer to run a D&D (or Star Wars) game for her and her 11 year old daughter.

Wish me luck!

I wish you the best of luck! You are a brave man. Running you girlfriend and her 11 Y/o Daughter can be very interesting.

She replied, thanks but no thanks but she is interested in it.

Whatever the heck THAT means!

Needless to say I will never bring it up again.

Ouch! Sorry about the bad news.

[Moritz]

She replied, thanks but no thanks but she is interested in it.

Whatever the heck THAT means!

Needless to say I will never bring it up again.

I've had a few girlfriends that play, but I was always more inclined to date girls who aren't interested in stuff like that. And if they discovered my secret hobby, and were interested, bonus!

[Inquisitor Tremayne]

I only asked her because she kept asking questions about it, so...

Its all good though!

[Tasos]

Luckily, my gf is a role-player, but I once ahd a wife who had absolutely no interest in playing. Sometimes, we have families come over, but the house is big enough where the kids can play and we can game with very few interruptions.

I did once belong to a group with a couple that had 3 kids... there were interruptions - dinner, burping, chasing and reclothing the 2 yr old who decided to remove all clothing and streak through the house, bedtimes, tantrums over who got what toy, etc. However, I was friends with the 2 of them since high school, so we all took it in stride. Plus, once the kids went to bed, we could game with no interruptions, so it all worked out.

[Kelbin]

Luckily, my gf is a role-player, but I once ahd a wife who had absolutely no interest in playing. Sometimes, we have families come over, but the house is big enough where the kids can play and we can game with very few interruptions.

I did once belong to a group with a couple that had 3 kids... there were interruptions - dinner, burping, chasing and reclothing the 2 yr old who decided to remove all clothing and streak through the house, bedtimes, tantrums over who got what toy, etc. However, I was friends with the 2 of them since high school, so we all took it in stride. Plus, once the kids went to bed, we could game with no interruptions, so it all worked out.

Unfortunately children can sometime prove challenging. But once they get grown enough to play themselves the can be a lot of fun.

[rabkala]

My oldest two are girls (22 and 15) with no interest in gaming. My youngest two are boys (7 and 3) who I have no doubt will game. The boys love dragons, sword fighting, and all sorts of similar things.

I have encountered 3 sets of father son teams that game. It can cause an odd dynamic at times. I frequently see the fathers feeling embarrassed by the sons actions. While I would just dismiss it without another thought, it can create tension when the father reprimands the youngster.

I only ever tried to bring one girlfriend into gaming. It caused all sorts of fights when she didn't get preferential treatment.

[Rain_Spider_08]

I only ever tried to bring one girlfriend into gaming. It caused all sorts of fights when she didn't get preferential treatment.

Exhibit A as to why I don't game with a bf... I am morbidly curious though, what treatment did she expect? The whole "someone shot at me how come you didn't become a human shield?" thing or something of a different nature? :p

[Tasos]

Exhibit A as to why I don't game with a bf... I am morbidly curious though, what treatment did she expect? The whole "someone shot at me how come you didn't become a human shield?" thing or something of a different nature? :p

That's the one thing I like about my gf (soon to be my fiancee). She has never expected preferential treatment from anyone - she expects to be "treated as a gamer, not a girl gamer" as she put it. When I was DMing for our group she also did not expect special treatment simply because she was sleeping with the DM. As long as all of that is understood, it minimizes the fairness issues.

[Moritz]

I did once belong to a group with a couple that had 3 kids... there were interruptions - dinner, burping, chasing and reclothing the 2 yr old who decided to remove all clothing and streak through the house, bedtimes, tantrums over who got what toy, etc. However, I was friends with the 2 of them since high school, so we all took it in stride. Plus, once the kids went to bed, we could game with no interruptions, so it all worked out.

I was once involved with a large gaming group. There were a lot of children always running around. One of the adults (same guy from other posts) yelled at one of the kids (not his), and scared the kid so badly that he peed his pants. The guy wasn't invited back.

[Moritz]

My oldest two are girls (22 and 15) with no interest in gaming. My youngest two are boys (7 and 3) who I have no doubt will game. The boys love dragons, sword fighting, and all sorts of similar things.

I've got a step daughter, 7yo, and we won't be 'sharing' the gaming aspect of our lives with her. Girls have enough self conscious issues going on to make them into something even more socially unacceptable by what is considered 'normal'. It's bad enough that I try to make sure she's smart. Hopefully she won't be labeled a nerd because she has a higher IQ than the cheerleader types.

[Rain_Spider_08]

I've got a step daughter, 7yo, and we won't be 'sharing' the gaming aspect of our lives with her. Girls have enough self conscious issues going on to make them into something even more socially unacceptable by what is considered 'normal'. It's bad enough that I try to make sure she's smart. Hopefully she won't be labeled a nerd because she has a higher IQ than the cheerleader types.

Considering the fact that most girls would argue that even the mop in the custodians closet has a higher IQ than a majority of the "cheerleader types" (some would even say a more pleasant personality too may I add) I doubt it's a bad thing that you try to "make sure she's smart". *sigh* old memories... nothing like releasing 2 moving boxes filled with roaches into the cheerleaders locker room :D heheheheh good times. Yes... I have a bad side, they picked on my friend in gym (BADLY, it was therapy material) and I acted accordingly. Evil narcissitic she-beasts....

[rabkala]

Exhibit A as to why I don't game with a bf... I am morbidly curious though, what treatment did she expect? The whole "someone shot at me how come you didn't become a human shield?" thing or something of a different nature? :p

We went out for a couple years during college. She went to a state school about 40 minutes south of the small private college I attended. She was a very attractive and intelligent geology major who had a tendency to lack common knowledge. Not long after we started to see each other, she expressed interest in gaming. We joined a weekend group at her college as I was DMing a Tuesday game at mine. She picked up the game quickly, but always wanted to tell everyone else what to do. She did demand I act as a human shield for her cleric who 'just didn't want to get dirty'. When the guys in the group got mad at her bossing them around, she would start to flirt and tease. Eventually I started to DM the group because the current DM was overwhelmed. Things really got out of hand at this point. She would threaten to withhold sex if she didn't get her way, pout if her character was attacked, whine for days on end if she didn't get magical items she wanted, etc. I was glad to get back to gaming when we finally broke up the relationship.

[Moritz]

Rabkala, dude, I had one of those once. Kicked her to the curb. Withholding sex? Pshaw, she wasn't that good anyway.

[Kelbin]

Rabkala, dude, I had one of those once. Kicked her to the curb. Withholding sex? Pshaw, she wasn't that good anyway.

Good god man that sounds just like an experience I had. Are you sure you are not my evil twin?

[TheYeti1775]

Wife gamed a few times, she wasn't really in to it.
My son was very young at the time, so we offered our place for gaming. One of our group was a single mom, and her daughter was about 7 months younger than our son. So they would play together, then we would lay them down and listen over the monitor. You could hear them talking back and forth.

Generally it only cut into about an hour of the gaming. So wasn't a big issue even when the wife stopped playing.

Now he is 7, and likes playing with the minis.

But my game isn't at our house now.